Which Enneagram type is most common is not clear. Most of the information available to us today is based on the anecdotal experience of Enneagram practitioners. I am not aware of any scientific studies. It would be hard to do a scientific study because there are too many variables that make up the complexity of personality. Continue reading
The Enneagram is a psychological, spiritual map for personal growth. The Enneagram helps you to make a conscious change in your life. As you become self-aware of your behaviour and mindset, you can make better choices.
The Enneagram will point out where you are most likely to get stuck and give you choices that are more in harmony with your needs. It will help you recognize unconscious behaviour allowing you to respond in new and healthier ways.
The Enneagram tackles stress. One popular teaching from Russ Hudson and Don Riso talks about how stress affects our behaviour. Each Enneagram type disintegrates under pressure and shows up in the most dysfunctional behaviour of another type. This dynamic will help you understand why you behave differently under stress.
Stress can affect us at any time, whether you are in heavy traffic, starting a new job or waiting for the results of a test from your doctor. When you get stuck in stress, it pushes your natural personality to its limit and takes on some of the unhealthy behaviours of another type. At times like this, you do not feel like yourself. Continue reading
Love is an overused word. Love is about bringing out the best in each other. Love is a choice. In this article, you will discover the power of love through the Enneagram.
When we choose to love another person, we respect them whether or not we are happy with them. What does love mean for you?
Discovering your Enneagram type can help you to love yourself, your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife.
What is the Enneagram? It is a psychological-spiritual map to help you be your best.
Even the best of divorces is not easy. If you do your work, you will come out of this time stronger, healthier and more confident.
Ending your relationship may feel like a chaotic time. The only way to release these intense feelings, thoughts and sensations are to move through them by experiencing them.
You are likely to feel sadness, anger, despair, hopelessness and confusion. One moment you will be happy, the next you will be crying.
You are not going crazy. This roller coaster of emotions is your psyche’’s way to heal. You need to give yourself space to re-orient to the world without this person in your daily life.
Find safe spaces and people to allow yourself to feel the pain. Ignoring or avoiding the pain will only make it worse.
You are not just grieving the loss of your relationship but what it could have been.
Most people take at least a year to move through this process but may take longer. If you are feeling stuck, it would be wise for you to consider getting professional help.
Once you are through the initial stages of grief, here are five ways to thrive after a divorce: Continue reading
Most relationships begin well. When you are first in love, everything your beloved does is fantastic, cute and endearing.They can do no wrong.
As you move beyond the honeymoon phase, the blinder comes off your eyes, and you see your partner for they are.
ou have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away.
You would not have survived your childhood without your inner critic. It was there to keep you safe.
Your inner critic is that negative voice within you that lets you know when you are moving into dangerous territory. The trouble is that your inner critic gets alarmed every time you try something new.
While this part of your ego kept you safe when you were young, it starts to hold you back when you become an adult.
The more you can become aware of when your inner critic is talking, the better able to you will be able to tame this part of your ego. Continue reading
The word pandemic is a scary word. You are in shock. You never dreamed this would happen.
You, along with the rest of the world, are living in strange times. Coronavirus is impacting the whole world.
You are anxious about the health of yourself, your family, colleagues and community. You are also worried if you are going to have money to survive. You are disturbed by a massive decline in the stock market, reducing your retirement savings.
Living in the time of Covid-19 is hard. The good news is a great time to learn about yourself.
This worldwide Continue reading
At Your Best:
You are a loving, compassionate person. You are sensitive, optimistic, helpful, romantic, supportive, energetic and emotionally expressive.
You get great satisfaction from helping friends, family and acquaintances. Your strong intuition helps you to know what others need. Your true nature is love, and you desire to serve.
While you are always there for the people in your life, you also take care of yourself.
You freely offer your time to serve others without any expectations of people returning the favour. You take no offence if people do not accept your offer to help. Continue reading
You have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away. The good news is that you can learn to quiet down this part of your self.
First, here is an introduction to the inner critic and the ego.
The inner critic is part of your ego. Your ego is there to help you differentiate yourself from others. It is the beginning of your growing self-awareness that separates you as a distinct person. Finding your own identity is essential for your survival.
Your inner critic wants to keep you safe. During your childhood years, It helps you to stay safe at a time in your life when you are vulnerable.
The trouble is that the inner critic tries to keep you safe by pressuring you to stay with the familiar. It will panic whenever you try something new.
When you become an adult, it is beneficial to notice when your inner critic is speaking. The voice of the inner critic is usually loud, impatient, abrasive and angry. The voice of your true self is typically gentle, persuasive and patient.
When you are aware that your inner critic is speaking, you then have the choice to ignore it and follow the voice of your true self. You have the option to invite your inner critic to help you be more constructive. You might ask it to let you know when you are getting stuck in fear. Continue reading
Doubt is one of the most excellent tools available to you. It is what your brain does well when given a chance. It is called critical thinking.
To doubt is to be uncertain of a belief or opinion. It is to suspend judgment to seek more opinions deliberately.
Think how much better the world could be if all of us practiced critical thinking before we made any decision for our family, workplace or religious community.
You already do this without realizing it. Many of us, when making a big purchase, will learn about the different options. You will read up on any information you can find.
If you are new parents, you will read some of the latest books on parenting. You will probably go in with some healthy skepticism until you find the author that speaks to you.
Often if we think an offer feels like it is too good to be true, we will do further research, such as being in touch with the Better Business Bureau.
Can you imagine the world without the gift of doubt? Who would you choose to follow unquestionably? Who would you trust so much that you would do as told without question?
Doubt is a gift from God
God gave us minds to use. I believe God expects us to use our minds to help us make our way through our lives. It is the only way to find the truth amid lies and ignorance. Continue reading