You have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away. The good news is that you can learn to quiet down this part of your self.
First, here is an introduction to the inner critic and the ego.
The inner critic is part of your ego. Your ego is there to help you differentiate yourself from others. It is the beginning of your growing self-awareness that separates you as a distinct person. Finding your own identity is essential for your survival.
Your inner critic wants to keep you safe. During your childhood years, It helps you to stay safe at a time in your life when you are vulnerable.
The trouble is that the inner critic tries to keep you safe by pressuring you to stay with the familiar. It will panic whenever you try something new.
When you become an adult, it is beneficial to notice when your inner critic is speaking. The voice of the inner critic is usually loud, impatient, abrasive and angry. The voice of your true self is typically gentle, persuasive and patient.
When you are aware that your inner critic is speaking, you then have the choice to ignore it and follow the voice of your true self. You have the option to invite your inner critic to help you be more constructive. You might ask it to let you know when you are getting stuck in fear. Continue reading →
You are amazing! You are unique! There is no one exactly like you! You are entirely, you!
You are given in the first few months of life, one of nine ways to survive in the world. Your personality type is critical for your survival. Your ego helps you to see yourself as separate and distinct from the people around you, even your parents.
Your ego gives you a framework to make sense of the world and keep you safe. The trouble begins when we come of age and don’t realize how stuck you are in your type. You don’t understand how your personality is limiting your choices and threatening your freedom in the world.
Each personality type is no better or worse than others. They are just different. Your type shows you where you are already stuck. Working with this fantastic tool helps you to escape the limitations of your personality, getting you stronger in all nine types.
In this series of articles, I am going to take you on a journey through the nine Enneagram types. Remember, you have all nine types within you.
To learn more about how your Enneagram Type Impacts what you observe and see in yourself: Click Here Continue reading →
Going through a divorce is one of the most stressful events you can experience in life. Even if you have come to a decision together, it is still hard.
It is hard because there is grief. Your dream of a lifelong relationship together has ended. Your expectation that your partner would be there for you for the rest of your life has come to an end.
If you have children, you are now a single parent. How are they going to thrive in this new, unfamiliar environment? Where are they going to live? How will they get to see both parents if it is safe?
Unless you can find a way to share the home you have been living in, you will have increased expenses as you and your partner will each need a place to live.
You have been saving up for some new clothes, a new car or a trip that you now must put on hold because of all the extra expenses.
Your friendships are going to change. Some of the couples you used to enjoy company with may disappear from your life. Friends that you once new together may choose to only stay friends with your ex-partner.
Your favourite pet may go to live with your ex-partner. You will have to divide up all the contents of your home. It won’t be easy.