Nine ways to heal after a miscarriage (And Find New Life)

Facing a miscarriage is devastating!  You have been preparing for the birth of this child ever since you knew you were pregnant.

You feel this child growing inside you.  It is part of you. You already have hopes that this child will have a good life, making you proud and happy.

The death of a fetus is no different than any other death.  You grieve every loss in life. 

You not only grieve the death of another human, but you also grieve when you lose any function of your body.

Going through a miscarriage can feel lonely.  You are looking for answers. It is tempting to blame yourself or your husband.

You are afraid to share this news with others for fear of what they might say making you feel even worse. They say things that discount what you have experienced such as “you can try again soon.” 

Many people do not know how to respond to couples after a miscarriage. Often because of their awkwardness, people say things that ignore the pain of the couple who just experienced the loss.

It is essential to take time to heal after a miscarriage.  Not only does your body need to recover, so does your heart, mind and spirit.    Continue reading

4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

ou have an inner critic. It is a part of you. It has good intentions. It wants to keep you safe.

It only knows what you have experienced before in your life. It feels threatened by anything new.

The good news is that you can learn to quiet your critical inner voice. Your ego needs some reassurance that you, as an adult can take care of yourself.

At first, it takes time to become aware of your inner critic. Often you are so used to this voice you think it is a normal part of yourself. You don’t realize how this voice has hurt you. You don’t realize how much you have missed in life because of your fears.

You need to be patient with yourself as you do the critical work to release yourself from your inner negativity. You need to practice a lot of self-love.

It will feel like you are moving two steps forward one step backward, don’t give up. With time and growing self-awareness, you will start to notice a difference.

As you release your inner critic, you will start to experience greater joy in your life because you are open to following your heart. Trying something new will become exciting instead of scary.

Unfortunately, your inner critic will show up during times of high stress. However, as you become more aware of yourself, you will be able to stop yourself from getting overwhelmed by its negativity in the future.

Here are 4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life: Continue reading

How to Cope with Life Transitions Even When They’re Unexpected

Change is the one constant in life. The more you can go with the flow the more natural change will be. The more you try to stop change the more stressful it becomes.

Life is full of constant change. There are the changes we expect, such as moving from one level of education to another, our first date, marriage, first child, and retirement. Even these are not easy.

Whether or not the change is expected, the challenge is how to cope with life transitions. Continue reading

How to Know What Is Effective Leadership Behavior For Your Organization

Every organization requires its unique style of leadership. There are many books and consultants out there with great tools for guidance, but no one model can meet your needs. Room always needs to be left for flexibility. Here are ten ways to ensure you have the best leadership model for your organization: Continue reading

You Can Have Your Cake and Eat it Too

The Future is Now, Strategic Vision

 

Fed up with Your Job

Are you ready for a job change, but you are too fearful to try? Many of us are stuck in jobs we don’t enjoy. The good news is that we don’t need to stay in them.

Excuses

Our minds are good at coming up with all sorts of excuses.  For example, the money is good in my current job. My family is relying on me. I don’t know what I would do if I wasn’t doing my current job. I don’t want to go back to school. I am too old to start something new. I am afraid to fail. I should be thankful for what I have. Can you relate to any of these excuses?

The Beginning of a New Adventure

What would it take to get you exploring a new job or career?  For me it was growing frustration with my current job and excitement about something new I was learning. It also helped to have friends and family who were encouraging me.

Career Planning Needs Imagination

In high school did you go through a computer program in Guidance Class to discover what you would be good at doing? When I did this none of their suggestions really appealed to me. The trouble was that the careers I was interested in were not on the list. To many of the things I wanted to do included skills and abilities I did not think I had. I now know this is a time to dream big!

Loving your Work

What do you love to do? Do you like interacting with people? Would you rather be working by yourself? Do you love to work with numbers? Are you good at organising? Do you like talking on the phone? Would you describe yourself as creative? Would you rather work for yourself? These are but a few of the questions you might want to think about.

What is Enough?

How much money do you need to do what you love? Here are a couple of questions to get you thinking. How important is it for you to travel? Are you a person that likes to stay close to home? If you live in a city do you need a car? Instead of buying books you could get them from the library. Do you really need all the latest gadgets to enjoy life?

What quality of life do you Want?

I have met few people who would say they have enough money. I think most of us think we could always use more. But how much money is enough for you.  Maybe you would rather have more time off from work to enjoy time with loved ones.

What on earth should I Do?

You don’t know what you want to do? Go and take a course for credit or not, on a topic that interests you. Volunteer for an organization that excites you.  Over time you will discover more interests and skills. You may be surprised to find a way to do something you love and make a living from it.

What is your Passion?

I got drawn to learn about the personality system called the Enneagram. Gradually this led me to a Life Coaching program that uses the Enneagram as one of its main tools to help people to discover the wisdom that is within them. At the beginning, I didn’t do this because I thought it would lead me to a new career.

Do it because you Love It

I did it because I loved what I was learning. I was so excited about what I was learning that I wanted to share it with others. Now I have left a job that no longer inspires me into something new that has reignited my passion for life.

Start Small

Start small. Find a book on a topic that inspires you.  Maybe this will lead you to taking a course. Find an organization or group who will support you in your learning. As you explore new possibilities you will build self confidence opening yourself up to new possibilities. You will know when you are ready to make the big leap.

Live knowing that you have something important to Offer the World

Life is too shore to spend a lot of time doing things you don’t enjoy or suck the life out of you. Take the risk to begin a new adventure in your life. It is never too late to begin. You will be rewarded in ways that you never expected.

 

Roland Legge offers coaching through REL Consultants for individuals, couples, families and executives to help them to be the best they can be. For more information please arrange for a free 30-minute discovery call by phoning Roland at 1 306 620-7478 or you can email Roland at rolandlegge@relconsultants.com