The word pandemic is a scary word. You are in shock. You never dreamed this would happen.
You, along with the rest of the world, are living in strange times. Coronavirus is impacting the whole world.
You are anxious about the health of yourself, your family, colleagues and community. You are also worried if you are going to have money to survive. You are disturbed by a massive decline in the stock market, reducing your retirement savings.
Living in the time of Covid-19 is hard. The good news is a great time to learn about yourself.
The death of a loved one, whether that be a family member or friend, is hard. The worst thing you can do is hold in your emotions. Holding in your feelings will only make you feel worse.
If you fear losing control, you are among many. You can only hold it together for a short time before you feel the strain.
Avoiding grief is destructive. It will make you sick. The longer you hold it in, the more it is going to hurt you.
Grief is a natural response to loss. If you are willing to take the journey through the intense emotions, you will find healing. Life will never return to the way it was before death, but you will find a new purpose to life.
You have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away. The good news is that you can learn to quiet down this part of your self.
First, here is an introduction to the inner critic and the ego.
The inner critic is part of your ego. Your ego is there to help you differentiate yourself from others. It is the beginning of your growing self-awareness that separates you as a distinct person. Finding your own identity is essential for your survival.
Your inner critic wants to keep you safe. During your childhood years, It helps you to stay safe at a time in your life when you are vulnerable.
The trouble is that the inner critic tries to keep you safe by pressuring you to stay with the familiar. It will panic whenever you try something new.
When you become an adult, it is beneficial to notice when your inner critic is speaking. The voice of the inner critic is usually loud, impatient, abrasive and angry. The voice of your true self is typically gentle, persuasive and patient.
When you are aware that your inner critic is speaking, you then have the choice to ignore it and follow the voice of your true self. You have the option to invite your inner critic to help you be more constructive. You might ask it to let you know when you are getting stuck in fear. Continue reading →
Do you expect your partner to read your mind? Even if they could read your mind, would you want them to read your thoughts?
Thank goodness, your partner can not read your mind. It is up to you to let them know what you want.
You first will need to discern what you need in your relationship; then find the best way to communicate your desires.
An excellent way to learn what you desire in your relationship is to do some journaling and meditation. If your partner is open, you could experiment with ideas you both have to see if these are activities you desire to do as a couple in the future.
Most of what a good relationship comes from both your willingness to bring out the best in each other.
Here are five ways to help express your desires (and get) what you want in your relationship: Continue reading →
Unadulterated, consensual, fabulous sex is often a taboo topic. Many people don’t realize that in addition to being fun, there are many health benefits of sex—30 to be exact!
If your sex life is lacking, the following information may just inspire you to find more time to canoodle. From pain relief and decreased stress to improved sleep and brainpower, read on to learn how an active sex life can make you a happier, healthier person.
Note: This article is for informational and educational purposes only, and is not intended to serve as a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice. Continue reading →
ou have an inner critic. It is a part of you. It has good intentions. It wants to keep you safe.
It only knows what you have experienced before in your life. It feels threatened by anything new.
The good news is that you can learn to quiet your critical inner voice. Your ego needs some reassurance that you, as an adult can take care of yourself.
At first, it takes time to become aware of your inner critic. Often you are so used to this voice you think it is a normal part of yourself. You don’t realize how this voice has hurt you. You don’t realize how much you have missed in life because of your fears.
You need to be patient with yourself as you do the critical work to release yourself from your inner negativity. You need to practice a lot of self-love.
It will feel like you are moving two steps forward one step backward, don’t give up. With time and growing self-awareness, you will start to notice a difference.
As you release your inner critic, you will start to experience greater joy in your life because you are open to following your heart. Trying something new will become exciting instead of scary.
Unfortunately, your inner critic will show up during times of high stress. However, as you become more aware of yourself, you will be able to stop yourself from getting overwhelmed by its negativity in the future.
While the Enneagram has ancient origins, it is new for many people.
In the last couple of years, the Enneagram has moved into popular culture. You hear about it on all platforms of social media. There are more and more books written on the subject and workshops offered around the world.
With its increasing popularity there is a growing number of critics and doubters. In the context of increasing information coming out about the Enneagram, I want to counter the notion, that the Enneagram is Bogus.
The beginning of your relationship is so exciting! Sometimes you are so smitten you lose yourself in the relationship. It is at this time you more likely going to get caught in a relationship with a narcissist.
One in twenty-five people in the USA have disorders associated with no conscience. Narcissistic Abuse is believed to affect over 158 million people in the USA. Click Here to Learn More
Dating a narcissist can tear your life apart unless you find the courage to leave. The trouble is that the longer you are in the relationship, your boyfriend will suck the self-confidence out of this.
If you find yourself in one, it is not because you are bad. Narcissist are often very good at manipulation. They will start to take control of you even when you are not aware of it.
Once you realize you are in a destructive relationship, don’t be afraid to get help. There is no shame in seeking help.
Before you date, learn some of the signs of narcissism. Here are three signs that you are in love with a narcissist. Continue reading →