Nine paths to healthy relationships based on your Enneagram Type

In our world of online dating, it can be hard to find the perfect match. It doesn’t take much to disappoint you.

When all the excitement and passion of falling in love have waned, you start to see your partner’s peculiarities. They begin to remind you of your in-perfections. It is tempting to run.

With the help of the Enneagram, you can increase your chances of having a healthy relationship. Instead of focussing on finding your perfect partner, it is about you learning to be your best self.

Learn in this article about the Nine Paths to healthy relationships based on your Enneagram Type.

No type is better or worse than another. I am going to share some of the strengths and challenges that come with each Enneagram type. I hope this will help you to notice what is going on inside you without judgement.

Once you can acknowledge your issues and challenges, the Enneagram can help you to find balance again.

In the end, it is all about self-discovery, honesty and taking 100 % responsibility for your self.

It is after taking full responsibility for yourself you are going to attract healthier people.

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9 Paths to Inner Peace in the time of Covid-19

The word pandemic is a scary word.  You are in shock. You never dreamed this would happen.

You, along with the rest of the world, are living in strange times. Coronavirus is impacting the whole world. 

You are anxious about the health of yourself, your family, colleagues and community. You are also worried if you are going to have money to survive. You are disturbed by a massive decline in the stock market, reducing your retirement savings.

Living in the time of Covid-19 is hard.  The good news is a great time to learn about yourself. 

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Enneagram Type Two: The Helper

At Your Best:

You are a loving, compassionate person.  You are sensitive, optimistic, helpful, romantic, supportive, energetic and emotionally expressive.

You get great satisfaction from helping friends, family and acquaintances.  Your strong intuition helps you to know what others need. Your true nature is love, and you desire to serve.

While you are always there for the people in your life, you also take care of yourself.

You freely offer your time to serve others without any expectations of people returning the favour.  You take no offence if people do not accept your offer to help. Continue reading

5 Ways to help express your desires (and Get) What You Want in Your Relationship …

Do you expect your partner to read your mind? Even if they could read your mind, would you want them to read your thoughts?

Thank goodness, your partner can not read your mind. It is up to you to let them know what you want.

You first will need to discern what you need in your relationship; then find the best way to communicate your desires.

An excellent way to learn what you desire in your relationship is to do some journaling and meditation. If your partner is open, you could experiment with ideas you both have to see if these are activities you desire to do as a couple in the future.

Most of what a good relationship comes from both your willingness to bring out the best in each other.

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30 Remarkable Health Benefits of Sex

Unadulterated, consensual, fabulous sex is often a taboo topic. Many people don’t realize that in addition to being fun, there are many health benefits of sex—30 to be exact!

If your sex life is lacking, the following information may just inspire you to find more time to canoodle. From pain relief and decreased stress to improved sleep and brainpower, read on to learn how an active sex life can make you a happier, healthier person.

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Type One: The Need to get it Right

The Enneagram and You

You are amazing!  You are unique!  There is no one exactly like you!  You are entirely, you!

You are given in the first few months of life, one of nine ways to survive in the world. Your personality type is critical for your survival. Your ego helps you to see yourself as separate and distinct from the people around you, even your parents.

Your ego gives you a framework to make sense of the world and keep you safe. The trouble begins when we come of age and don’t realize how stuck you are in your type. You don’t understand how your personality is limiting your choices and threatening your freedom in the world.

Each personality type is no better or worse than others. They are just different.  Your type shows you where you are already stuck.  Working with this fantastic tool helps you to escape the limitations of your personality, getting you stronger in all nine types.

In this series of articles, I am going to take you on a journey through the nine Enneagram types.  Remember, you have all nine types within you.

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Nine ways to heal after a miscarriage (And Find New Life)

Facing a miscarriage is devastating!  You have been preparing for the birth of this child ever since you knew you were pregnant.

You feel this child growing inside you.  It is part of you. You already have hopes that this child will have a good life, making you proud and happy.

The death of a fetus is no different than any other death.  You grieve every loss in life. 

You not only grieve the death of another human, but you also grieve when you lose any function of your body.

Going through a miscarriage can feel lonely.  You are looking for answers. It is tempting to blame yourself or your husband.

You are afraid to share this news with others for fear of what they might say making you feel even worse. They say things that discount what you have experienced such as “you can try again soon.” 

Many people do not know how to respond to couples after a miscarriage. Often because of their awkwardness, people say things that ignore the pain of the couple who just experienced the loss.

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4 Signs you are ready to move on after your divorce

No divorce is easy!  Even in the best circumstances, when you can both agree to the terms of the divorce it is still stressful.

Right after your divorce, you will need all the support you can receive.  Friends and family might be enough. But if you are having a hard time moving ahead you would benefit from psychological help.  There is no shame in getting help because this demonstrates your courage.

No matter how you feel, take your time to work through the pain of ending your relationship.  It is time to focus on your own needs.

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11 Signs that you are in a good Relationship

Relationships are complex. If you want a good relationship, you and your partner need to be committed to making it work.

Being committed means, you need to take responsibility for keeping your own emotional, physical and spiritual health. You need to be one hundred percent responsible for your happiness.

You need a partner who is willing to be responsible for his issues.  He needs to be ready to keep himself healthy and stay committed to building a healthy and robust relationship with you.

There is nothing magical about getting married.  Getting married will enhance healthy relationships and make destructive relationships even worse.

There is no such thing as getting married and happily living ever after without intention and effort.

When you both walk your talk; you are likely going to have a harmonies relationship.  It takes time, patience, self-awareness and playfulness. You can make it happen.  Continue reading

4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

ou have an inner critic. It is a part of you. It has good intentions. It wants to keep you safe.

It only knows what you have experienced before in your life. It feels threatened by anything new.

The good news is that you can learn to quiet your critical inner voice. Your ego needs some reassurance that you, as an adult can take care of yourself.

At first, it takes time to become aware of your inner critic. Often you are so used to this voice you think it is a normal part of yourself. You don’t realize how this voice has hurt you. You don’t realize how much you have missed in life because of your fears.

You need to be patient with yourself as you do the critical work to release yourself from your inner negativity. You need to practice a lot of self-love.

It will feel like you are moving two steps forward one step backward, don’t give up. With time and growing self-awareness, you will start to notice a difference.

As you release your inner critic, you will start to experience greater joy in your life because you are open to following your heart. Trying something new will become exciting instead of scary.

Unfortunately, your inner critic will show up during times of high stress. However, as you become more aware of yourself, you will be able to stop yourself from getting overwhelmed by its negativity in the future.

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