ou have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away.
You would not have survived your childhood without your inner critic. It was there to keep you safe.
Your inner critic is that negative voice within you that lets you know when you are moving into dangerous territory. The trouble is that your inner critic gets alarmed every time you try something new.
While this part of your ego kept you safe when you were young, it starts to hold you back when you become an adult.
The more you can become aware of when your inner critic is talking, the better able to you will be able to tame this part of your ego. Continue reading →
You have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away. The good news is that you can learn to quiet down this part of your self.
First, here is an introduction to the inner critic and the ego.
The inner critic is part of your ego. Your ego is there to help you differentiate yourself from others. It is the beginning of your growing self-awareness that separates you as a distinct person. Finding your own identity is essential for your survival.
Your inner critic wants to keep you safe. During your childhood years, It helps you to stay safe at a time in your life when you are vulnerable.
The trouble is that the inner critic tries to keep you safe by pressuring you to stay with the familiar. It will panic whenever you try something new.
When you become an adult, it is beneficial to notice when your inner critic is speaking. The voice of the inner critic is usually loud, impatient, abrasive and angry. The voice of your true self is typically gentle, persuasive and patient.
When you are aware that your inner critic is speaking, you then have the choice to ignore it and follow the voice of your true self. You have the option to invite your inner critic to help you be more constructive. You might ask it to let you know when you are getting stuck in fear. Continue reading →
Do you expect your partner to read your mind? Even if they could read your mind, would you want them to read your thoughts?
Thank goodness, your partner can not read your mind. It is up to you to let them know what you want.
You first will need to discern what you need in your relationship; then find the best way to communicate your desires.
An excellent way to learn what you desire in your relationship is to do some journaling and meditation. If your partner is open, you could experiment with ideas you both have to see if these are activities you desire to do as a couple in the future.
Most of what a good relationship comes from both your willingness to bring out the best in each other.
Here are five ways to help express your desires (and get) what you want in your relationship: Continue reading →
Unadulterated, consensual, fabulous sex is often a taboo topic. Many people don’t realize that in addition to being fun, there are many health benefits of sex—30 to be exact!
If your sex life is lacking, the following information may just inspire you to find more time to canoodle. From pain relief and decreased stress to improved sleep and brainpower, read on to learn how an active sex life can make you a happier, healthier person.
Note: This article is for informational and educational purposes only, and is not intended to serve as a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice. Continue reading →
You know life is going well for you! Your dreams are coming true. You love your job. You are in a great relationship. Everything is going well! Why with all this good happening in your life, does it feel like something is missing. Maybe it is your relationship with God.
Why is hard to connect with God when things are going well? When you are going through good times, it is easy to forget you still need the holy in your life.
You create the illusion that all this good that has come to you in your life has come from your efforts. Continue reading →
Right from birth, you are going to experience transitions in life. It starts at the beginning of life at birth.
Can you imagine the shock you must have felt being birthed into the cold world from the cozy, safe home of your mother?
After birth, you go from one transition to another. They include: Your first steps. The first time you rode a bicycle. The first time your parents left you with a babysitter.
Then there is the first day of school. Puberty, when your body starts to go through many physical changes. First serious relationship. Leaving home. Going to university. Marriage, becoming a parent, being fired, moving to a different community, empty nest, retirement and death are all part of life’s journey.
Your goal is to manage the challenges of life transitions as best as you can. Continue reading →