Which Enneagram type is most common is not clear. Most of the information available to us today is based on the anecdotal experience of Enneagram practitioners. I am not aware of any scientific studies. It would be hard to do a scientific study because there are too many variables that make up the complexity of personality. Continue reading
Even the best of divorces is not easy. If you do your work, you will come out of this time stronger, healthier and more confident.
Ending your relationship may feel like a chaotic time. The only way to release these intense feelings, thoughts and sensations are to move through them by experiencing them.
You are likely to feel sadness, anger, despair, hopelessness and confusion. One moment you will be happy, the next you will be crying.
You are not going crazy. This roller coaster of emotions is your psyche’’s way to heal. You need to give yourself space to re-orient to the world without this person in your daily life.
Find safe spaces and people to allow yourself to feel the pain. Ignoring or avoiding the pain will only make it worse.
You are not just grieving the loss of your relationship but what it could have been.
Most people take at least a year to move through this process but may take longer. If you are feeling stuck, it would be wise for you to consider getting professional help.
Once you are through the initial stages of grief, here are five ways to thrive after a divorce: Continue reading
Most relationships begin well. When you are first in love, everything your beloved does is fantastic, cute and endearing.They can do no wrong.
As you move beyond the honeymoon phase, the blinder comes off your eyes, and you see your partner for they are.
The word pandemic is a scary word. You are in shock. You never dreamed this would happen.
You, along with the rest of the world, are living in strange times. Coronavirus is impacting the whole world.
You are anxious about the health of yourself, your family, colleagues and community. You are also worried if you are going to have money to survive. You are disturbed by a massive decline in the stock market, reducing your retirement savings.
Living in the time of Covid-19 is hard. The good news is a great time to learn about yourself.
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The death of a loved one, whether that be a family member or friend, is hard. The worst thing you can do is hold in your emotions. Holding in your feelings will only make you feel worse.
If you fear losing control, you are among many. You can only hold it together for a short time before you feel the strain.
Avoiding grief is destructive. It will make you sick. The longer you hold it in, the more it is going to hurt you.
Grief is a natural response to loss. If you are willing to take the journey through the intense emotions, you will find healing. Life will never return to the way it was before death, but you will find a new purpose to life.
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You have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away. The good news is that you can learn to quiet down this part of your self.
First, here is an introduction to the inner critic and the ego.
The inner critic is part of your ego. Your ego is there to help you differentiate yourself from others. It is the beginning of your growing self-awareness that separates you as a distinct person. Finding your own identity is essential for your survival.
Your inner critic wants to keep you safe. During your childhood years, It helps you to stay safe at a time in your life when you are vulnerable.
The trouble is that the inner critic tries to keep you safe by pressuring you to stay with the familiar. It will panic whenever you try something new.
When you become an adult, it is beneficial to notice when your inner critic is speaking. The voice of the inner critic is usually loud, impatient, abrasive and angry. The voice of your true self is typically gentle, persuasive and patient.
When you are aware that your inner critic is speaking, you then have the choice to ignore it and follow the voice of your true self. You have the option to invite your inner critic to help you be more constructive. You might ask it to let you know when you are getting stuck in fear. Continue reading
Doubt is one of the most excellent tools available to you. It is what your brain does well when given a chance. It is called critical thinking.
To doubt is to be uncertain of a belief or opinion. It is to suspend judgment to seek more opinions deliberately.
Think how much better the world could be if all of us practiced critical thinking before we made any decision for our family, workplace or religious community.
You already do this without realizing it. Many of us, when making a big purchase, will learn about the different options. You will read up on any information you can find.
If you are new parents, you will read some of the latest books on parenting. You will probably go in with some healthy skepticism until you find the author that speaks to you.
Often if we think an offer feels like it is too good to be true, we will do further research, such as being in touch with the Better Business Bureau.
Can you imagine the world without the gift of doubt? Who would you choose to follow unquestionably? Who would you trust so much that you would do as told without question?
Doubt is a gift from God
God gave us minds to use. I believe God expects us to use our minds to help us make our way through our lives. It is the only way to find the truth amid lies and ignorance. Continue reading
Do you expect your partner to read your mind? Even if they could read your mind, would you want them to read your thoughts?
Thank goodness, your partner can not read your mind. It is up to you to let them know what you want.
You first will need to discern what you need in your relationship; then find the best way to communicate your desires.
An excellent way to learn what you desire in your relationship is to do some journaling and meditation. If your partner is open, you could experiment with ideas you both have to see if these are activities you desire to do as a couple in the future.
Most of what a good relationship comes from both your willingness to bring out the best in each other.
Here are five ways to help express your desires (and get) what you want in your relationship: Continue reading
Unadulterated, consensual, fabulous sex is often a taboo topic. Many people don’t realize that in addition to being fun, there are many health benefits of sex—30 to be exact!
If your sex life is lacking, the following information may just inspire you to find more time to canoodle. From pain relief and decreased stress to improved sleep and brainpower, read on to learn how an active sex life can make you a happier, healthier person.
Note: This article is for informational and educational purposes only, and is not intended to serve as a substitute for individual medical or mental health advice. Continue reading
The Enneagram and You
You are amazing! You are unique! There is no one exactly like you! You are entirely, you!
You are given in the first few months of life, one of nine ways to survive in the world. Your personality type is critical for your survival. Your ego helps you to see yourself as separate and distinct from the people around you, even your parents.
Your ego gives you a framework to make sense of the world and keep you safe. The trouble begins when we come of age and don’t realize how stuck you are in your type. You don’t understand how your personality is limiting your choices and threatening your freedom in the world.
Each personality type is no better or worse than others. They are just different. Your type shows you where you are already stuck. Working with this fantastic tool helps you to escape the limitations of your personality, getting you stronger in all nine types.
In this series of articles, I am going to take you on a journey through the nine Enneagram types. Remember, you have all nine types within you.
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