Going through a divorce is tough, even when done compassionately.
Even the best of divorces is not easy. If you do your work, you will come out of this time stronger, healthier and more confident.
Ending your relationship may feel like a chaotic time. The only way to release these intense feelings, thoughts and sensations are to move through them by experiencing them.
You are likely to feel sadness, anger, despair, hopelessness and confusion. One moment you will be happy, the next you will be crying.
You are not going crazy. This roller coaster of emotions is your psyche’’s way to heal. You need to give yourself space to re-orient to the world without this person in your daily life.
Find safe spaces and people to allow yourself to feel the pain. Ignoring or avoiding the pain will only make it worse.
You are not just grieving the loss of your relationship but what it could have been.
Most people take at least a year to move through this process but may take longer. If you are feeling stuck, it would be wise for you to consider getting professional help.
Once you are through the initial stages of grief, here are five ways to thrive after a divorce: Continue reading
Most relationships begin well. When you are first in love, everything your beloved does is fantastic, cute and endearing.They can do no wrong.
As you move beyond the honeymoon phase, the blinder comes off your eyes, and you see your partner for they are.
Going through a divorce is one of the most stressful events you can experience in life. Even if you have come to a decision together, it is still hard.
It is hard because there is grief. Your dream of a lifelong relationship together has ended. Your expectation that your partner would be there for you for the rest of your life has come to an end.
If you have children, you are now a single parent. How are they going to thrive in this new, unfamiliar environment? Where are they going to live? How will they get to see both parents if it is safe?
Unless you can find a way to share the home you have been living in, you will have increased expenses as you and your partner will each need a place to live.
You have been saving up for some new clothes, a new car or a trip that you now must put on hold because of all the extra expenses.
Your friendships are going to change. Some of the couples you used to enjoy company with may disappear from your life. Friends that you once new together may choose to only stay friends with your ex-partner.
Your favourite pet may go to live with your ex-partner. You will have to divide up all the contents of your home. It won’t be easy.
Here are seven ways to inner peace after a divorce: Continue reading
No divorce is easy! Even in the best circumstances, when you can both agree to the terms of the divorce it is still stressful.
Right after your divorce, you will need all the support you can receive. Friends and family might be enough. But if you are having a hard time moving ahead you would benefit from psychological help. There is no shame in getting help because this demonstrates your courage.
No matter how you feel, take your time to work through the pain of ending your relationship. It is time to focus on your own needs.
Here are four signs that you are ready to move on after your divorce: Continue reading
Relationships are complex. If you want a good relationship, you and your partner need to be committed to making it work.
Being committed means, you need to take responsibility for keeping your own emotional, physical and spiritual health. You need to be one hundred percent responsible for your happiness.
You need a partner who is willing to be responsible for his issues. He needs to be ready to keep himself healthy and stay committed to building a healthy and robust relationship with you.
There is nothing magical about getting married. Getting married will enhance healthy relationships and make destructive relationships even worse.
There is no such thing as getting married and happily living ever after without intention and effort.
When you both walk your talk; you are likely going to have a harmonies relationship. It takes time, patience, self-awareness and playfulness. You can make it happen. Continue reading
You know life is going well for you! Your dreams are coming true. You love your job. You are in a great relationship. Everything is going well! Why with all this good happening in your life, does it feel like something is missing. Maybe it is your relationship with God.
Why is hard to connect with God when things are going well? When you are going through good times, it is easy to forget you still need the holy in your life.
You create the illusion that all this good that has come to you in your life has come from your efforts. Continue reading
A good relationship consists of many qualities. But for you to recognize these qualities you need to be open and healthy yourself. Continue reading